When Kevin and I were engaged, we had a sit down with my dad about our finances. My dad is the finance guy, and Kevin and I were (and are) in a bit of a unique situation when it comes to money. But after speaking with my dad, we both were very encouraged. He told us of when him and my mom got married and their humble beginnings. Upon returning from their honeymoon, they had less than $1,000 combined (yikes!). Fast forward 33 years, and they live a very full and beautiful life (with five kids). What he said to us that day has really stuck with me: “We didn’t have much, but we knew that if each year just got a little bit better, then we’d be alright. So that’s what we’ve worked for.”
It’s easy for me to get down about the things we don’t have, or the struggles we have that seem to be a non-issue for others. But the reality is that everyone faces struggle. It might manifest itself in different ways, but it’s not my place to judge or compare. All I can do is try to be grateful for the way God has blessed us in our marriage. And lately Kevin and I have been extremely aware of this. We may not have the resources to do much, but even after just seven months, our situation is starting to get a little bit better. We’re working hard and life sometimes feels like a never ending marathon with what we’re trying to accomplish. But with every day/week/month, our faith increases, our peace and joy grow, our trust builds, our love deepens, and our situation gets a little bit better. We moved into 2015 with such encouraged spirits, and most of all, a deeper appreciate for God in our marriage.
I want to have the mindset my parents had. There’s no way to know where we’ll be 5/10/20 years from now, but we can work to make this year a little bit better than the last. By God’s abundant grace, we’re growing in ways that help our marriage, our faith, our finances, our health, and our time. And by building these skills and cultivating these habits now, it’s going to benefit us down the road. I know challenges lay before us, especially if/when God blesses us with children, but we have great faith that we’re moving in the right direction.